Grief can be a difficult and stressful experience, and supporting a grieving friend can be challenging. Feeling awkward and unsure are normal feelings when faced with someone who has had a difficult loss. It is important to reach past your own discomfort because your support is vital as your friend learns to live with loss and find a way towards the future.
Tips for helping a grieving friend
Acknowledge your own discomfort.
Understand that each person grieves differently.
Be patient. Grief takes time.
Remember that first birthdays, anniversaries and holidays without a loved one can be very difficult.
Avoid platitudes, such as “This is part of God’s plan” or “She is in a better place.”
Listen. Be willing to sit in silence.
Call and offer specific ways that you can help.
Be there for the long haul.
Expect ups and downs.